In New South Wales, approximately 1 in 4 women and 1 in 8 men experience domestic violence. Given the personal nature of these relationships, it can be difficult for victims to safely leave and begin anew. However, with the right strategy, it is possible to protect oneself and start fresh. Here is a step-by-step guide for preparing an exit strategy to safely leave a domestic violence situation
1. Establish a Safe Space
For those leaving domestic violence situations, finding a safe place is essential. This might include staying with trusted family members or friends or seeking refuge at a domestic violence shelter. Establishing this location prior to leaving ensures immediate safety.
2. Gather Essential Documents and Items
Leaving a high-stress situation can lead to forgetting important items. Prepare in advance by collecting vital documents, such as birth certificates, passports, and any medications. By securing these items early, you can avoid the risk of your former partner withholding them or using them to control you.
3. Reach Out for Support
Emotional support is crucial during and after exiting an abusive relationship. Seek support from friends, family, or professionals. Many domestic violence shelters offer counseling and support groups that provide a safe environment for sharing and healing.
4. Financial Preparation
Leaving an abusive relationship may involve financial challenges. Many domestic violence shelters provide temporary housing, food, and essentials. It can also help to reach out to family or friends for short-term financial support. Consider opening a separate bank account if you have not already, to prevent any financial control by your former partner.
5. Seek Legal Protection
Legal protection, such as an Apprehended Violence Order (AVO), can help secure your safety. An AVO legally requires your former partner to stay away from you, with criminal consequences for violations. Consulting with a family law professional can also clarify your rights, including property and child custody matters.
If cost is a concern, Legal Aid or other government assistance programs may offer support to those unable to afford private legal advice.
Preparing for a New Beginning
Leaving a domestic violence relationship is challenging but achievable with a well-prepared exit strategy. A secure and organised plan can help ensure your safety and provide a solid foundation for rebuilding your life.
If you or someone you know needs legal support in a domestic violence situation, contact Family Focus Legal at (02) 4655 4224 for a confidential consultation.
